Ask Dr. Deborah | Dreaming of a Better Future
Dear Dr. Deborah,
I grew up with little expectations for my future. After high school I got a job working as a waiter and have been living paycheck to paycheck ever since. My job is okay, but my passion lies in fashion design. A friend of mine recently told me about your programs and it got me thinking. Do you think I would be able to start my own business designing and selling clothes?
With a positive attitude and a commitment to learning, anyone can succeed in business. The main ingredient is that you truly want to succeed. When you truly want something, you are willing to overcome obstacles to get there – regardless of what they are and how often they arise.
In my recent article, Success is About Overcoming Obstacles, I introduce examples of people like you, who had a dream and went for it. In each case, they too, had to overcome obstacles. In life in general, there will always be ups and downs. This is also true in business as markets shift, economies fluctuate, competition enters and trends evolve. To succeed, you have to simply keep on “doing.” Those that fail only talk about doing.
To assess how much you truly want to succeed here, think about your past and what you’ve come to believe are your chances for success. These early perceptions will influence you going forward. For example, did someone encourage you to be all you can be, or discourage you? Were you told that you had gifts or that your life would not amount to much. The goal is to challenge what you learned early on in a way that will support you going forward.
The following exercise will aid this process. It starts with one of the most important elements to success in business, which is your view about money. As long as we are a currency-based economy, succeeding in business requires making more money than you spend. Follow the three steps and be sure to take the time to write down your responses.
Step 1: Revisit your past experiences
- What did you see about money and rich people early on in your life?
- What did you hear about money and rich people early on in your life?
- What did you experience with money and rich people early on in your life?
Step 2: Acknowledge your current views
- What do you know about money and rich people today?
Step 3: Move forward
- Knowing what you know today, do you understand that you have a choice about how you handle money and view rich people going forward?
- If so, what will you do differently going forward when handling money and dealing with rich people?
- If not, why do you think this? Discuss your views with someone you trust to learn if you do, in fact, have options.
The more you become self-aware of your thoughts, the more you can control them versus have them control you. Wishing you much success ahead!
Onward and upward,